I have been pondering what I wanted to blog about when a lady started this debate with me on my Facebook wall. One, I shared a neat wooden sign of rules.
Image credit to Facebook.com. That’s a first. LOL.
I think the sign is good because it is showing that you mind your parent’s rules, no making your own. Which is really tough in today’s generation, they are all about not following rules. I grew up with these rules and no way did it hurt me or make me think my grandma was a mean person. It was teaching me to respect her and to respect authority. The clothing part is a mutual agreement on what to wear. I will not allow my kid to wear something that is profane or too short for school, etc. I’m sorry, I am not going to rush out and buy them expensive clothes just because they want it! No! Most times, clothing is shopping together and coming to an agreement.
The second one of washing it, you can most definitely put it away! I did growing up. I actually have taught my kids to do their own laundry. Still working on the putting away. But they do take it to their room. They are not going to be lazy. Once in awhile I will put it away but not so much anymore. Mine our teens and they can do their own. In fact, 90% of the time they do their own bedding as well. 🙂
The bed time one, darn right, if I say bed you go to bed! I will not allow them to choose their own bed time. That is not good for them. They are still learning and they do not know what is best for them yet. Plus, they need sleep and they need a routine. No phones either! I have them turned off at night. Though sometimes Verizon settings don’t always work I find out. They are shut down from 11pm to 6am. On weekends I do leave them on all night and sometimes wish I didn’t, but if they are away and need me then they can call. I even struggle with them having phones as teens. We waited until they were a teen which is way longer than most. I do get a bit relaxed on the weekends for bedtime. It just depends what is going on. I really dislike sleepovers because they never go to sleep. When other kids stay we have tried getting them to go to sleep and they won’t. It wouldn’t bother me so much but the kids are fricken noisy and then we can’t sleep. No respect for others. At least as a kid we whispered and just talked. These kids wrestle, etc. Drives me batty. Sleep time is for calming down.
The phone thing, darn right, we are paying for it, if we say get off, get off. And even if they are paying for it but in our house same rule applies. We do this mostly at supper time or if we are doing a family thing. No reason to be on the phone when it is interrupting our time together. Call them back. Phones don’t belong at our table. End of story.
The no thing is what got the other person debating with me. She thinks I should give an answer because it makes them thinkers! Hell no, not when they argue the answer you gave! I am the parent, my answer is final! You do not keep asking why when I said no! All that is doing is encouraging them to argue with authority! No!!!
Doesn’t mean you have to agree but no means no. My goodness is her kid gonna argue with a policeman, teacher, or a boss? Good luck with that! I think she is the problem with society in the way she is rasing her kids. I was nice on Facebook so I did not get mean or anything because I do know she has her right to her opinion but it was like my opinion didn’t matter!!! I’m pretty sure my kids will turn out better than hers at least in authority and following rules.
What do you think? Yes, I will welcome your opinion. 🙂
Thanks for letting me vent. 🙂