Friendship

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This is such a vast topic.

I am a totally different friend now than when I was growing up.

Growing up, I wanted to be around my friends as much as possible. I was bummed when I had to stay home from some party because I would miss out on something.

I look back and think why? I actually missed out on some great quality time with my family instead.

I didn’t get to go out all the time. There were rules. But I did tend to make my time out count. We won’t go into that. LOL.

I admit I was messed up in the head and wasn’t always the greatest friend to others. Various teenage reasons for that. I do regret that a lot. I think if I could redo my teenage years, I would. I would make better decisions for sure. I can say, I have some wild memories that was a heck of a lot of fun.

Now, for the future me. I am so opposite now. I could careless about going out with a friend. Not that I don’t like them or want to spend time with them, I just don’t want to. No reasons really. Well, maybe a few but the biggest is, I just don’t want the drama that could come with it. Perhaps, when the last child is graduated I will change my mind and want a close friend again. I don’t know.

I am pretty content with my kids and hubby being the big part of my life.

Though, I would like one to talk to when something is bothering me. I think.

See, I can’t even decide if I want to interact with humans, other than my immediate family. LOL

I guess that is what an introvert is, huh? 🙂

I confuse myself let alone if I had a close friend. LOL

I talk to my old friends, sometimes, and once in a great while we get together but nothing weekly, monthly or even yearly. Oops.

Has social media ruined it for me? Has a smart phone ruined it for me?

Or perhaps, I was meant to be this way but fate changed that path when I was younger. I think about fate a lot. I believe fate plays a tremendous role in how our lives go. It is all about the right choices that fate throws at you. If those choices turn bad, will we learn from them? Some have taken me a time or two to learn.  Just like when I ignore that dang gut feeling.

Always go with your gut. I must keep telling myself that. 🙂

I must say I did choose hanging with friends way more before smart phones and social media came along.

The amazing thing is, I’m not unhappy. Go figure.

I do find myself when interacting with another human other than my hubby and kids, I don’t know what to talk about.

I am tongue-tied. So not me.

I have lost the ability to communicate. But give me an emoji or GIF and I will communicate all day long to you! LOL

 

 

 

No Is No

I have been pondering what I wanted to blog about when a lady started this debate with me on my Facebook wall. One, I shared a neat wooden sign of rules.

1891066_658020927570236_1711459499_n Image credit to Facebook.com. That’s a first. LOL.

I think the sign is good because it is showing that you mind your parent’s rules, no making your own. Which is really tough in today’s generation, they are all about not following rules. I grew up with these rules and no way did it hurt me or make me think my grandma was a mean person. It was teaching me to respect her and to respect authority. The clothing part is a mutual agreement on what to wear. I will not allow my kid to wear something that is profane or too short for school, etc. I’m sorry, I am not going to rush out and buy them expensive clothes just because they want it! No! Most times, clothing is shopping together and coming to an agreement.

The second one of washing it, you can most definitely put it away! I did growing up. I actually have taught my kids to do their own laundry. Still working on the putting away. But they do take it to their room. They are not going to be lazy. Once in awhile I will put it away but not so much anymore. Mine our teens and they can do their own. In fact, 90% of the time they do their own bedding as well. 🙂

The bed time one, darn right, if I say bed you go to bed! I will not allow them to choose their own bed time. That is not good for them. They are still learning and they do not know what is best for them yet. Plus, they need sleep and they need a routine. No phones either! I have them turned off at night. Though sometimes Verizon settings don’t always work I find out. They are shut down from 11pm to 6am. On weekends I do leave them on all night and sometimes wish I didn’t, but if they are away and need me then they can call. I even struggle with them having phones as teens. We waited until they were a teen which is way longer than most. I do get a bit relaxed on the weekends for bedtime. It just depends what is going on. I really dislike sleepovers because they never go to sleep. When other kids stay we have tried getting them to go to sleep and they won’t. It wouldn’t bother me so much but the kids are fricken noisy and then we can’t sleep. No respect for others. At least as a kid we whispered and just talked. These kids wrestle, etc. Drives me batty. Sleep time is for calming down.

The phone thing, darn right, we are paying for it, if we say get off, get off. And even if they are paying for it but in our house same rule applies. We do this mostly at supper time or if we are doing a family thing. No reason to be on the phone when it is interrupting our time together. Call them back. Phones don’t belong at our table. End of story.

The no thing is what got the other person debating with me. She thinks I should give an answer because it makes them thinkers! Hell no, not when they argue the answer you gave! I am the parent, my answer is final! You do not keep asking why when I said no! All that is doing is encouraging them to argue with authority! No!!!

Doesn’t mean you have to agree but no means no. My goodness is her kid gonna argue with a policeman, teacher, or a boss? Good luck with that! I think she is the problem with  society in the way she is rasing her kids. I was nice on Facebook so I did not get mean or anything because I do know she has her right to her opinion but it was like my opinion didn’t matter!!! I’m pretty sure my kids will turn out better than hers at least in authority and following rules.

What do you think? Yes, I will welcome your opinion. 🙂

Thanks for letting me vent. 🙂